This week in com101 we were lectured on interpersonal and group communication and as per instructions we are to reflect, find a article and relate it to the material we have learned so far.
The lecturer, as my fellow classmates will nod their heads in agreement, talked about the attributes of interpersonal communication in terms of relationships....the best kind, what attracts us and so forth.
In today's blog i will be discussing something slightly different. Instead of talking about the best kind of interpersonal communication relationship, I'm gonna talk about the ugly side of it.
Take for example the article from bbc.com (http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/entertainment/8073230.stm) titled "Rihanna may testify against Brown".
As you might or not know these two ( Rihanna and Brown) are from the music industry and were dating... recall our notes....
Relational formation and development
• Similarity
– Tendency to form relationship with those we perceive as similar to us as it
• Reduces our uncertainties about them
• Reduces the associated risks in the relationship
• Serves as a form of social validation
Sooo anyways.... something bad happened a while back and it seemed that communication between the two broke down, both verbally and non verbally.
It is alleged that they both started arguing and it got so bad that he ended up beating her (non verbal communication)
could you say that brown saw the relationship in a competency relation ship and as a result ended up getting jealous because she was a bigger star?
(• Competency
– Form relationships with those who are competent (excel)
• Its importance is subjective, depending on the individuals and the types of competency
– Competency can have negative impact as well)
********************************PS: i dont have the links to everyone elses blogs for com101. can someone help me out please :-) *****************************************************
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hey man, you can check your ublearns account under COM101 for the full list, in the mean time you can visit my blog, www.mytake101.wordpress.com , there's a few blog links at the side.
ReplyDeleteyes.. brown was starting to feel inferior about the success his 'significant other' was enjoying. what a bunch of sour grapes..
ReplyDeleteoh and we learned today that persuasion in ads use big stars to endorse their products and when the star does something stupid (like beating up their girlfriend), the company would reject the deal with thee 'star'.
same thing happened between brown and disney.. HAHA LOSER!!
I agree with longlong that Brown was starting to feel inferior because of the rising success of his other half. Probably he has this huge ego in him that tells him that as a guy, he should be the one who has more success. This most probably resulted in him beating up his girlfriend. But I have to say it's really dumb of him to do such a thing. Beating up his girlfriend = gaining more exposure. I think it's more like gaining critics and the big "L" label from people everywhere.
ReplyDeletewell, guess the non verbal cues went a little bit too far. they are both people under the lime light and definitely the media would report and make things big.
ReplyDeletethis is a very good example when messages could not be taken across through verbal intercommunication. perhaps it is not all about the ego or inferior stuffs. we are just viewing matters as outsiders and do not know what is it that really took place between them. therefore i do not think that we have the right to criticise.
I think they're both pretty big stars and so maybe its not about a competency issue.
ReplyDelete"so bad that he ended up beating her (non verbal communication)..." haha! Lack of communication def'nitely!
I kinda believe some of the reports that Chris Brown was seeing this other girl. Could it be that his guilt & frustration made him take it out on her 'cause he couldn't talk about it honestly with her? Whatever it is, i guess they didn't know how to deal with interpersonal conflict, what with their relationship being just over a year old when this happened.
i think when couple's fight or end up in 'nonverbal' abuse (lol), it is usually a result a lack of communication verbally, when both parties are not open about feelings and all these become pent up frustrations and things get blown out of proportion.
ReplyDeleteWell, we do not know what really went on that day so I will not comment much on why he had hit her. However, I still feel it is wrong for a guy to hit a girl regardless of what happen between the two of them. If it really was because as most of the commentors said, that he had done it out of an inferioty complex, then I can only say I feel it was just dumb of him to do it, as it only effectively push Rihanna up the popularity ladder more (as a victim), and him down.
ReplyDeletei was listening to a podcast a few months back when the incident was still fresh and ripe for media critics, and it featured a comment on how bizarre the entire attack was, and a few choice words were used to describe brown's mode of assault: 'fights like a girl'. it was referring to the bite marks on rihanna, so lol.. maybe this is the similiarity they shared? (on the flip side, who BITES someone in a fight?! especially when its a male vs. female brawl??)
ReplyDeleteWhatever it is, I am totally against violence being used to resolve issues. What's more, a girl being hit by a guy? That's just so...hateful. Any issues they have should've been talked out, like I mentioned before communication is key, so why resort to such methods. If he really loved her, why did he do such a thing to her?
ReplyDeleteJust too bad that Brown felt pressure because Rihanna was doing better. As her other half, shouldn't he be supportive of her and proud of her success instead of being all hating and taking it out on her? Gosh. He needs to get a life.